I tried to be all deep ya’ll…I really did. I drafted a whole ‘nother blog for today’s post but I said to myself (in my most educated vernacular), “Nah.”
For those of you who don’t know, I graduated with my Master’s degree last Friday from Middle Tennessee State University. It was an epic feeling, especially coming from a person who didn’t even want to go to get her Bachelor’s degree. However, if you’ve ever met my parents, you know that staying in their basement at age 18 was not an option, so off to Bradley University I went.
As much as I love this nice piece of hardware sitting on my dresser, I would be kidding you if I let you think this diploma holder was what it was all about. It’s merely a tangible representation of one of the many things you can achieve once you adopt the manifesto, “I can do it.”
Let me back up and set the scene. I had been a background pillar for so many other people because I love to help others. Yet, there were few things that I knew I was supposed to do and that I wanted to do in life. When God would kindly (but sternly) remind me, I would always respond, “Ok, as soon as I help [insert ANYONE’S name] then I’ll get started.” Then it finally hit me…
I was my own hater.
I had talked myself out of SO MANY THINGS! I had an idea of who I wanted to be and the young lady I envisioned was no where near the person I was. So, it was during my quarter life crisis that I prayed one of the realest prayers of my life, “God, I don’t want to help everyone else reach their potential and not reach my own” and I was serious.
Little did I know, that would be the catalyst of many life changes:
- One month later, I got a roommate.
- Three months later, I moved into a new neighborhood.
- Five months later, I started blogging.
- The following year, I quit my job.
- Almost a year later I got my business license.
- Almost two years later, I got my hood.
Don’t get me wrong, it was HARD. We throw words like “motivation” and “beast-mode” around as if they’re arbitrary – but they’re intentional. Now, I didn’t do all of this myself. In conjunction with my faith, I had a supreme tribe that helped me when the chips were down.
The reason why I can tell you that there will be bad days is because I KNOW. There will be days when you miss deadlines, there will be days when you choose sleep over the grind, there will be days when you just want to hang out with your friends and family and not have to worry about the flood of emails that hit your inbox. If I can offer any advice, I would tell you to take those breaks because you need them. However, that’s contingent upon your ability to get back in the hustle.
I remember complaining to my Mom about my intense schedule in high school. I had a job, was in AP courses, played piano at church and in the pit orchestra, played clarinet in the band, was a shot putter on the track team, and had a social life (your girl was voted Most Outgoing…imagine that ). She plainly looked at me and said, “Well if you were mediocre, you wouldn’t have these problems. Now get in there.”
So, I say the same thing to you. Whatever your goal is, you can do it. It may not be a degree, but if you’re all the way at the end of this blog…you’ve got something. It could be a new job, a promotion, a weight loss goal – whatever! Just attack it. If it’s causing you pain, that’s just the feeling of mediocrity escaping and excellence seeping in. It’s not for the weak or the faint. It takes a lot of energy to change your life – but remember, if you were mediocre, you wouldn’t have these problems!
Count your blessings, not your problems and get back in the game.
You got this.
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