A couple of weeks ago, I was in Gulf Shores, Alabama and walked into the cutest shop attached to a restaurant. It was full with wall art, homemade jewelry and all things associated with a “mom and pop shop.” I love anything with positive words and I ended up picking up this little pocket-sized book filled with quotes to say when you have a bad day.
There were some cliche’ things in there, you know what I mean. It’s the stuff you wrote in your classmate’s yearbooks when you signed them on the last day of school. However, one quote on the back stood out to me by Mark Knopfler:
“Sometimes you’re the windshield. Sometimes you’re the bug.”
Initially, I laughed. Then I thought, “Well, neither one of those are pleasant. If you’re the bug, you’re dead. If you’re the windshield, you’ve killed a bug and you’re dirty.”
Then, I finally got it…sometimes, life happens.
Although I pray that I continue to grow in my faith, I would be remiss if I sat here and acted as if I don’t have my fair share of pity parties. Here’s some of my most infamous parties below:
- I graduated from undergrad with a slew of awards and not one job offer.
- When I finally did get a job, I was so stressed out that my nose bled. (read about that here)
- For a while, I checked my bank app every single time when I pulled up at a gas station because I was that broke.
I could go on, but you get the picture. What I’m trying to say is that, I have been a bug and a windshield!
I’m sure you can think of moments like that for yourself. (Go ahead and think, I’ll be here when you get back.)
But, here’s the beautiful thing about all of this – we both kept going then and we’ll both keep going now.
The more we persevere in our bug/windshield moments, the more opportunities we gain to learn and broaden our perspectives. As you sit here, reading this blog right now, know that your part to play in this grand story of life is nowhere near over. Even though “life happens,” it’s what you need in that season to strengthen you for what’s to come.
I look back on my pity parties now with a much different outlook:
- My lack of employment led me to DM a CEO on Facebook and be offered a job as a marketing assistant
- My nose bled eventually led to a bomb self care routine
- To combat my bank account dry spell, I generated another stream of income with a weekend gig working retail and also learned to budget. Both of those tactics help me significantly in my business every day.
At the end of the day, know that it’s okay to take a hit every once in a while, you’ll bounce back. And that my friend, is so much more important than your hit.
Are you the bug or the windshield? Who cares. Just sit back and enjoy the ride.
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